What the heck is wrong with me?

425>Its been a year since my mom passed away from cancer. For any of you out there that knows what its like. I am sure you%26#039;ll agree it is extremely tough to go through. I took anti-depressants for a few months to try to help cope with her passing. I stopped because I felt like I was kind of in a fog. And maybe things would get better. They haven%26#039;t. My fear is that I am going to loose the great guy I am with. Part of me doesn%26#039;t care. The other part of me knows that thinking that way is wrong. He is a great GREAT guy but I just don%26#039;t care a lot of the time. Should I go back and try some other medications and counseling to see if I can get myself back together or what?
Reply:I would definitely try counseling first. While medications can be helpful, they are just a temporary solution to the problem. Talking with someone about how you are currently feeling and your fear of losing your significant other is going to be more helpful then taking a med that will make you happy all day.
Reply:You should go back and see someone. Tell them what you have been experiencing so that you can receive counseling/medication. If you felt like you were in a fog with the old medication, something was off with your dosage. Anti-depressants shouldn%26#039;t cause that, so when you go back to the doctor please let them know how the medication made you feel this way so they can try another medication. It is not uncommon after the passing of a love one to worry about losing others or behave in the opposite manner and simply refuse to care about others as an attempt to protect yourself %26quot;just in case%26quot; they do leave as well. This is something that counseling could really assist with.





I am sorry to hear about your loss, and I hope things work out for you in the future.
Reply:Sorry to hear this and you are right to be aware that how you are feeling will affect others around you. Even when people love you there is only so much they can take.


I am talking 100% from experience here.


A year isn%26#039;t long for what happened, I understand totally, its a huge shock psychically, physically, and emotionally and it can take a lot longer than a year to recover.


It took me about 4.


You sound in control and lucid so thats good, you seem in touch with reality.


The anti-depressant you were on wasnt right for you, it must have been an %26#039;old style%26#039; med.


There are pills that just help your brain to produce serotonin as its having difficulty producing enough right now.(thats how I understand it).


I take cipralex and would swear by it. - no fog I promise.


I took counselling also and yes it helped massively.


good luck.
Reply:Loss of a loved one can do strange things to our minds.


Counseling probably will help, but if that is not possible due to financial considerations, contact the local hospice. Often they have bereavemant support groups that cost nothing.
Reply:I lost my mom to cancer also, and I am sorry for your loss! One is never ready to lose their mom. You don%26#039;t say how old you are or anything about your belief system or family support system. These things are so important as you go through the grieving process. Remember that your mom would want you to be happy. I think you are ready for happiness also, it is okay to let yourself. Good Luck to you.
Reply:The grieving process takes a while. It is difficult and I do empathise. I lost my sister to cancer. I also lost my Mum. Anti-depressants are probably not the answer. Yes....counselling sessions would help I think. Also consider joining a bereavement support group. Your local health clinic will have information about these for you. And gain the support of your closest friends and family. Explain to your guy what you are going through and that you are doing the best you can. I%26#039;m sure he will understand and stick by you. You need all the support you can muster. I wish you strength you will need to get through this difficult time and faith to believe that one day this will pass. Think positively. I also wish you comfort in your hardest times.
Reply:try to go back to conseling. love urself