HELP! Do Anti-Depressants work? I come from a close family. Last year my Grandad was told he had cancer....

47>and its been hard and a struggle since then. Last week my nan was told she had lung cancer and is dying. My boyfriend of 7 years told me he does't want to b with me anymore as he's been seeing someone else. My best friend (my younger sis is going away 2 uni in sept. I know this is nothing compared to what some people have to go through, but with everything happening all at once i frankly can't cope. Will anti-depressents help. I'm only 24 and am worried that takin these may affect future jobs as I know it affects things like life insurance and national insurance payments become higher as your viewed as a higher risk. I really don't know what else 2 do. I'm normally a very logical person
Reply:A band-aid at best, it still won't resolve the underlying issues will it? You need to take the hard route and sort your troubles out.
Reply:yes they do work
Reply:I don't think that they would help you,


I think that you need to have some fun and start doing things that you will enjoy,


Anti-depressants do work but I think that your life problems are making you feel claustraphobic,


I think some breathing space would help how you're feeling,


Then if that doesn't help then I'd see your doctor
Reply:Talk to a doctor. As far as a job goes nobody has to know about it. I'm not sure about life insurance but I don't think that has much to do with it either.
Reply:they won't help in the long run.





its not the answer for your troubles.





you might want to look at some more natural solutions such as st johns wort
Reply:i really do feel for u. i have been thru similar. you r a little young tho to go straight onto this kind of medication.





i recommend that u see your own doctor and see what they recommend. personally i think u should ask ur doctor to arrange for u to see a CPN nurse. this is someone who acts like a counsellor to u in times like this.





helps u thru the tough times and helps u realise how to get thru without medication where possible. and they r wonderful listeners who u can usually arrange to meet as and when u feel u want to, without the need to keep booking a visit or meet thru ur doctor.





i hope things go better for u soon.





all the best x
Reply:personally i would not recommend them....they make you feel worse you come dependant on them, also i like to be in control of myself and my mind, anti-depressants don't help they just make you worse, trying to come off them is like murder, so i would say they don't help at all
Reply:The very way you pose your question says to me that you are not in depression. Yes you have a very emotional time of things. Anti depressants do work but sometimes it can be a lot of trial and experiment to get the right one and dosage. You are only 24 the whole world is out there waiting for you. You will find someone else. Its better now than after you married him. People do get ill and people do move away. You may even move away its part of the course of life and you will cope and even enjoy whats to come. Try to keep away from anti depression medication if you can. If you feel that things is realy getting to much try councelling first. It really helps to talk. The fact that you ask for some advice here shows that you will get some benefit from some councilling. I work in mental health and see a lot of depression and medication. Also everyone at some time in their life will feel very depressed but it nearly always passes. So please tell yourself that you are strong and young and you will beat and pass through this difficult time you are passing through. I wish you every success in the future and remember theres always another guy out there who would love to be seen with you on his arm. Good luck.
Reply:Please talk the situation over with your doctor. I have been on anti depressants they take a while but they did work. My doctor was excellent and ensured I came off them when no longer required. You don't sound depressed, although I am not a medical person I would say you have what is termed Anxiety State and little wonder with all that's going on in your life. I also have suffered from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and for that apparently it is thought small regular does of anti depressants help. If it is any reassurance , anytime on these I have always declared for life insurance, travel insurance etc and it did not effect premiums. Some travel insurances got their medical centre to phone me back and they clarified all was in order to proceed with the insurance. Only once when I was on a high daily dose of anti depressant (which if prescribed now you wouldn't be put on I am sure) they put an additional excess on my travel insurance but only if I had to claim owing to a problem from this 1 medical condition, the actual premium was not increased. Also when I went through a broker for car insurance they simply asked if I was on any regular medication, when I told them what I was on they said it was law I should tell DVLA. I duly did this, stating dosage I was on and they sent a letter confirming I was entitiled to drive, again no extra costs on policy. I am saying all this but I live in Uk, unsure where you are from as you mention increase in National Insurance payments which certain doesn't happen here.
Reply:As a short term solution yes they can help you through a bad patch...but would it not be better to take a deep breath and try talking to some one??Maybe you could talk to your sister.Spend some time with her and maybe she can be your support and maybe you will be hers ...Im sure she is nervous about going away too.